Do you think it’s possible to change?
Truly, deeply change?
by our amazing Office Manager: Stephanie Daniels
Every year we make resolutions to “change” something about ourselves. We are works in progress…so we are told. This will be the year. This will be the year that I . . . whatever it is you’ve been wanting, but haven’t given to yourself. (i.e: Losing weight, getting to the gym more, being more patient, eating more fruits and veggies, starting that business, finishing your degree, finding love, traveling to that place you’ve always wanted). Resolutions are like wedding vows: Making them is easy, but keeping them is another thing.
It’s hard. It’s work. It’s commitment.
And then comes progress.
Whatever critics say, people can and do change. We’ve have seen stories of amazing physical, and moral transformations that are astounding.
So YES, we are both: works in progress, AND we can change.
But we aren’t blank slates.
We are born with certain traits and characteristics that just won’t change no matter how hard we try.
You can resolve lots of things, but it may be the case that we simply are what we are, and that we can only go so far from a starting point. So what if, instead of resolving to change everything about ourselves to please our own-selves or other people, we resolved to accept people for who they are, as they are?
What if we vowed to take people as we find them, including ourselves? We can find every excuse as to how we are not perfect and need to change. But what if there is only one resolution that mattered and its the same one we should always have? It is: that we are whole, as we are, no need of thinner thighs, and more veggies, nor of pledges to finally do better this year. Lets resolve to look at ourselves and others as if viewing that person for the first time, and could see that they were simply doing the best they could in the moment. When we accept others as they are, we give them the space to find their own path and to learn their own truth to find the things they can really, truly change.